If you see a girl you like, and think of her as a stranger, this triggers a slew of defense mechanisms designed by evolution to keep you ’socially safe’. They are also effective at preventing nerves, so you want to avoid them. HERE is a exercise of 3 easy practical steps to seeing girls differently in the future, thus not triggering those reactions.

However, you will be required to PRACTICE DILIGENTLY, before this becomes a reliable. Do not expect the positive effect to become very noticeable until you’ve done it 300-500 times.

It requires a hot girl each time, but it does not require direct interaction, nor that the girl notices you. So no matter the setting, you can do this practice. Therefore, your goal is to do this EVERY time you spot a girl you like. You will forget sometimes in beginning, so dont hate yourself for that.

1) When you see a nice girl, start smiling.

2) When you start smiling, practice feeling a blooming warm happiness inside.

3) Look directly at the girl repeatedly during this.

There are deeper things and details you will notice when you get more used to doing it, but this simplified description is what you need to get started. It wont be easy or even work at all every time in beginning, so no self hating for that. A good way to get faster training is to seek places with lots of girls and focus really hard on not forgetting to do this.

So be prepared to buck your lives with this!

The sort of stuff that I’ve been working on that I have an intuition will make me more attractive without having to expend a lot of effort with each pick-up.

I’ve internalized some of these descriptions I mentioned completely and found it has done me wonders and it will for you.

1) Self-Reliance

With the process: You’re sarging for yourself, the quality of your sex-life, rather than for any sort of need to prove yourself to anybody. You approach the girls you’re attracted to, rather than being driven by the level of vibe and spontaneity of the people you’re around. You’re able to approach by yourself in random situations because you’re a man who approaches girls he is attracted to, rather than needing a support structure of guys around you throwing you into sets.

In a pick-up: You lead the conversation in the directions you want to take it. You decide whether or not to escalate with the girl, rather than trying to wait for her lead or trying to figure out what she wants. You’re confident that what you feel like talking about is interesting enough to her and don’t entirely change your personality based on what you perceive the girl will like.

2) Acceptance of the male-female sexual dynamic.

With the process: Rather than complaining about the reality of things, feeling like a victim of the way that attraction works, taking the steps necessary to become a sexy man. Losing naivity, dropping all disney ideals, and recognizing all women as sexual creatures who yearn to be submissive.

In a pick-up: Recognizing that as a man you are supposed lead. To approach, lead the conversation, escalate, and escalate in a way that turns her on.

In a relationship: Taking respnsibility for her sexual satisfaction. Doing your research (whether it just be on cunnilingus or fancy rope bondage) to take hte girl to the next level of sexual pleasure, recognizing that not doing so, and letting the sex stagnate will cause her to get bored for good reason. Boning her for however many hours she wants, even if you’re tired, etc.

3) Being willing to accept public embarrassment (or rather, situations wherein most people would be embarrassed)

in the process: Being willing to take risks and fail. Whether that be a technique you read about you want to try, or a crazy idea that just popped in your head. Especially with the crazy idea, that’s a full expression of you, and ultimately putting yourself out there and taking a social risk should not just be a decision you’re willing to make, but a process of self-discovery and enjoying the world for you.

In a pick-up: Having fun with the interaction, being willing to say potentially crazy or racy things and not squelching yourself. Ultimately a bland conversation will bore the girl and she will leave, even if oddly seems to be the safe thing to do. Even something out of left-field is better, because even if most of the time it’s going to blow you out, the girls that are really most compatible with your personality are going to strongly appreciate it.

Buck your life bros!