Buck My Life!

Studies have shown that the top salespeople in the world are not the best speakers, but the best listeners. Just like top sargers, they have an unique ability, that is they are all able to listen very well.

Here are 4 keys to be a great listener:

1) Be interested

Here is a great tip, “If you want to be interesting, be interested.” I always thought to be interesting, you need to have many funny and interesting stories to tell or need to have a face like Mr Bean. No! Everyone in this world crave for attention. Girls crave for attention even more. If you can give your customer or your girl the attention she needs, they are more likely to heed your request. Most of the time, we are just concerned about the things around us and neglect those around others. Showing interest in others and asking questions can spread unlimited warm to everyone’s heart. The best way to grab your prospect’s interest is to be genuinely interested in them.

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It all started out with a recommendation from a friend who is a practitioner from an old and well established sect of Zen.

One day this friend of mine came into my jazz pub. As was usual the case, I sat down with him and struck up a conversation with him. The conversation soon took a turn from the usual talk about life to more serious and philosophical areas.

We talked for many hours where he expressed ideas about how the world is view true Zen where by what is really around is but Emptiness and whatever form we see around us is but and illusion. That is why the need mediation.

The period of meditation for a zen practitioner is a period by which we clear our mind of all earthly distractions and truely attempt to bring our state of mind to what truly is. In the Zen sense this means Emptiness, a state of Mu-ga or Satori translated to English, it means a state of no I.

In this state of Mu-ga or Satori, one sees things not from the perception of the illusory self but from a state whereby the self does not exist, has never existed. In this state one is truly is able to see things as the way they should be seen, an impassioned point of view. Actions and thoughts performed thus in this state is truly an enlightened one.

While striving for such a state of mind might be too lofty a pursuit for most, meditation in the Zen sense does indeed help individuals focus their mind, removing all distractions, thus increasing their productivity. Similar in the tradition of the samurais who through the staunch practise of Zen are able to serve single mindedly their Master in some extent even beyond the point of physical death.

Today, I was driving home when my car broke down in the middle of the highway. The engine just would not start no matter how hard I tried. I was standing under the hot sun and having given up hope, I decided to get the towing service. However, I realised my mobile had turned off as well as the battery was flat.
I guessed that it was my gear box that had the problem. I opened the bonnet and tried to fix it. In trying to do so, I had started to sweat. So, I removed my designer shirt and proceeded to do my ‘dirty work’.
Suddenly, a bright red sports car pulled up next to my car. Its windows were tinted black and I could see my own reflection on the windows. My washboard abs glistened while my well defined half naked body was shining in the sweat that was flowing down from my fabolous looking face.
The windows of the car turned down. A sultry looking female who look so similar to Jessica Simpson was ogling at my hot bod.
‘ Need a ride?’ she asked me, quickly averting her gaze to my eyes instead.
‘ Of course babe.’ I replied. Buck My Life!

So what is the answer to one of the most commonly asked question in dating ever since the beginning of time: how do I turn a friend in to a lover?

Simple.

It’s all a matter of know when and how to play your cards right with your target of choice.

These are my 6-steps to get you out of the friend zone and get women sexually interested in you…

1. Limit your availability.

I’m willing to bet that whenever this girl does call you, you eagerly answer the phone and chat with her for as long as she wants.

You THINK that when you spend two hours on the phone with her, sharing your life stories and telling her about the girl who broke your heart when you were in the tenth grade, you’re
building some kind of deep “connection” with her.

But what you’re actually doing is removing ANY sense of mystery about yourself, and letting her know that you have nothing else going in your life… and no other women. This is massively UN-attractive to her.

(I know that when you’re a man who is struggling with his dating life, and haven’t hooked up with a chick in a while, this takes a LOT of discipline. Your instinct is to make yourself totally
available to her and try to spend as much time as possible with her. Well, go ahead and keep doing it this way, if you want to keep wondering why women keep placing you in the friend zone…)

2. Until you’ve slept with a woman, limit your phone chats with
her to five minutes.

And don’t get caught up in constant text-messaging. Give her the sense that you’re a busy man with places to be.

Use these short phone calls, or text exchanges, to lock down your plans to see her again. Save the deep conversations for when you are actually spending time with her.

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I was on the plane to New York for a business trip and I has to transit over at Narita airport in Japan. For some apparent reason, I could not secure an earlier flight to New York and I ended up having to wait about 24 hours for my flight instead of the usual 5 hours which I was supposed to have. I resigned myself to a very unproductive day stuck at one of the smallest and most boring airports in the world. Furthermore, my passport did not allow me to get out of the airport…. (continue reading…)

I sat the evening at the bar lounge watching the crowd of patrons to my jazz lounge. On occasions i would take a sip from my glass of red wine. The red wine tasted rich, a light scent of oak lingered long after each sip. It was just the way I like it.

Thinking back, it seemed surreal that I am here now, sipping my wine while listening to jazz, and not somewhere else. This has been the lifestyle that I dreamed of to have someday and now it is all real. Fate could have dealt me another set of cards and I could have been anywhere else except here right this moment.

Perhaps she did, in another time and space. Perhaps in that parallel universe, there was indeed another me that is now sitting, hopeless and homeless in the corner of some anonymous streets with nowhere to go and no one to turn to. I shivered at the thought of that. I took another sip of red wine and shrugged off this fear. It could not been too far a possiblity.

My childhood was a turbulant one, ever since the death of both my parents in the car accidant. Live since then had been a blur, like a metaphoric cosmic whirlwind that hurled me through time and space allowing me neither sense of security nor control.

How then did I survive this metaphoric roller coaster ride through all these years, all these doubts, fears and uncertainties?

Try as we might as a race to look into the future to discern the mysteries, yet unravelled, we fail time and time again and on occasions miserably. The human race just can’t predict and will forever remain so. Clairovoyance will forever remain in the realms of God. What then are we left with, if without the ability to predict. How then, did we, blind as a race, managed to move forward thus far as we did to where we are today?

Seeking deep within my heart I guess this was how. We are here we are today because some amongst us left their doubts, fears and uncertainties with God along with the need for clairovoyance and ventured forth bravely in pursuit their’s dreams backed by almost nothing but faith and a desire to see their visions come to fruition.

Today, I was at the embassy trying to make my visa for my upcoming business trip. I had prepared myself for a very long wait. As I was approaching the gate, I noticed this hot babe standing in the queue in front of me. The queue was for the security check as there was recently some rumoured terrorist activity in the area.
As I stood behind the hot babe, I tapped her on the shoulder and started using one of my routine openers. She showed me a little bit of IOI (indicator of interest) and I proceeded with a couple of routines. However, her interest did not seem to heighten, probably due to the hot summer weather. She was anxious to get inside the embassy.
Just before she was about to get into the compound via the security check, she asked me for my name. I was just about to number close at that time but the conditions were not favourable. I just let it go, it happens all the time. Chicks just come and go.
As I walked into the embassy, I noticed a horrendously crowded waiting area. Resigned to my fate, I proceeded to one corner holding onto my queue number that read 102. The screen at the counters were flashing 20 to 30. Suddenly, one of the counter girls shouted my name. I just noticed that the counter girl was the hot babe I talked to outside the embassy. She had decided to conveniently help me cut the queue. I walked towards her with a sly smile across my lips. I was going to close something after all. Buck My Life!

The human mind is the most wonderful of things. It is like a receiver and transmitter of thoughts. This is what Napolean Hill stated in his book Think and Grow Rich. How else it is then that ideas which we normally call inspiration pop into our head from sources unknown.

Being powerful as it is, the mind too is a double edged sword, that when not focused and concentrated goes wandering on its own through space and time, meanwhile leaving the body stagnant in the present moment.

Concentration then is the key to harnessing the power of this mirculously thinking machine each of us has called the brain.

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