Buck My Life!

Today N’s mom called me again under the pretext of expressing concern for my emotional health after what her daughter did behind both our backs. She was once again trying to give me an update of what N was doing back in school over here in Singapore.

“She has broken up with the guy from the states, she gave me her word. ” said N’s mom to me over the phone.

She just went on whining and whining about what her daughter N was doing, how she was feeling sorry for what her daughter did. Why couldn’t she just stop talking about N. What is the point. N is the bitch I am trying to forget. It is not helpful for N’s mom to be mentioning about N this and N that all the time during the conversation.

Instinctively I knew that her mom is just trying to do the impossible; for me and N to get back together again as though nothing has happened. And the main reason she is trying so hard is because she knows, unlike that air head N, I am a really good husband material as compared to the drug junkie of an American. By screwing up this relationship with me, N was effectively giving up on a really bright future.

What a pragmatic bitch her mom is? And a lack of shame too. How come all Chinese woman from China irregardless of their level of education and exposure are so materialistic? I guess the way N turned out to be was not really surprisingly, a fruit does not fall far from the tree after all.

Anyway’s much as her mom would have like to believe, the guy is now in Singapore happily pounding N away in a room she rented for him. I guess he will keep doing some until his time in Singapore is up and he leaves and forget about N altogether.

I got so tired from all her whining, I hung up the phone mid-way through the conversation. Meanwhile my phone started to beep. A new message has arrived. I took a look and realized it was R, one of the 50 girls I picked up from that online dating site.. I guess the party was really going to start.

One of the greatest ways to create sexual tension in a girl is to make her solve the mystery about yourself.

With this trait, you want to be the guy who she never fully understands. Nor are you someone who behaves in a predictable, boring manner.

To apply this technique, you want subtly maintain that distance, while not being an asshole about it.

There’s a very well-known economic theory called the Law of Scarcity. Put simply, a good’s value increases as its availability decreases. This same principle is easily applied to romance, as it is only human nature to want something you cannot have.

While you want to maintain a certain level of mystery with a girl, don’t use it to take advantage of insecurity. Controlling or hurting a person is never right, and it very often comes back to haunt you.

By being mysterious, you’re merely showing that you have options and could walk away at any time.

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So eventually I did met up with R. She seems cute. We went out for coffee. Through the whole time she was chatting and carrying the conversation all by herself.

We went to a cafe and sat down for coffee, it was not before long that she suggested we take a walk in the park. Thus we did. We sat down on the bench. While we chatted I was all the while leaning back feeling very relaxed.

On and on she do brush her hands on my thigh, sending a tingling sensation up my spine. It was a turn on. Still I made no move. Curiously it just got her more and more excited and worked up.

It just suddenly felt like I owned this girl. It was like having a pet and playing her whichever way you wanted to and she do be all willing. I guess being a white guy in Singapore does have its advantages.

After an hour of idle talking on her side, I got bored and just grabbed her leaned in for the kiss. I could her a sigh of relief coming from her. I guess she needed me more than I needed her. Seems like I was held the power in this particular relationship of ours.

The rest though was a story for another time.

Skipping Stages

Is it possible to skip stages? Absolutely. Look at the following examples.

A man walks right up to a girl who’s just noticed him, pulls her into him, says something seductive, and plants a small kiss on her lips, which she enjoys. He then pulls away, but she leans in to try and kiss him again. Where’s the girl? She’s moved instantly from being indifferent to kissing him to needing to kiss him again.

Or, a weird guy could walk up to the same girl and awkwardly try to plant one on her; she’ll recoil and go straight to Rejection.

It’s also possible for a woman to start out in the Curiosity stage (if, say, she spots a guy she really likes the look of and is exactly her type) or the Rejection stage (for instance, if she gets approached by a weird, creepy guy who makes her skin crawl). How often a woman starts out in a stage other than Indifference is directly linked to how judgmental/opinionated she is; the more she judges others, the more likely she is either to want or not want someone immediately before knowing much, if anything, about him.

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The cool thing about the Stages of Desire is that it’s pretty useful. Want to know why girls don’t chase after an amazing guy forever, even if the other guys around are only OK? It’s because Curiosity is a transitional stage and it fades fast. Want to know why women don’t stay happy for all that long when they finally get something they’ve been fighting for for a long time? It’s because Satiation is a transitional stage as well.

Most women in relationships after a while fall into the Expectation stage on most issues. They start out in the Need stage, until they fight / complain to / reward their man enough to get him to give them everything they want; then they hover around in Satiation for a little while, blissfully happy and content. They then move into the Expectation stage on some things, and begin focusing on other things in the Need department that they want to move on to Satiation.

For instance, early on a girl may want to see her guy four days a week. She’s in the Need stage. So she starts pressing him hard to spend the weekend and two weekdays with her. When he finally relents, she’s really happy for a while (Satiation); then she gets used to it and comes to expect seeing him four days a week (Expectation).

Now that’s she got that, she starts pressing again for something else (Need stage on a separate issue); maybe this time it’s that she wants the two of them to move in together. He resists; she presses. Finally, he relents, and they move in. She moves into Satiation on that issue and is blissfully happy; then she moves onto Expectation and is used to it. Now she starts working on her next need – maybe it’s marriage; maybe it’s children; maybe it’s something else.

The Stages of Desire also show why you need to keep pace in a seduction and not take too long; take too long, and her interest starts to fade as she slips from Curiosity back to Indifference. You have to give her a taste of whatever it is you’ve got her curious about, and move her into Need.

In a seduction, the goal should be to move a girl as quickly as possible to the Need stage.

In a relationship, the goal should be to stick either to the Need stage or the Expectation stage. She’s likely always going to have something in the Need stage, though; as soon as one Need moves to Expectation, another Need will surface. And what you need is found here http://secret.buckmylife.com

nve.�-p���_;experienced yet, it fades away fast and is easily superseded; e.g., she wants to kiss a guy really bad, but he keeps stringing her along and teasing her, until you come along, sweep her off her feet, and kiss her. Now her interest has turned from him to you, and her curiosity in kissing that first guy (dork!) is probably largely forgotten (much to his consternation).

Stage 2 – Need

In the Need stage, a girl has tasted something – whether she kissed you for the first time, or you her on an incredible date, or you gave her powerful orgasms in bed – and she wants more of it.
While she’s in the Need Stage of Desire, a girl will chase after the thing she wants, often pleading, complaining, cajoling, doing nice things, causing drama, and doing anything she can as she seeks to get the thing she wants and needs more of.
When a girl is chasing after and pursuing you, her desire for you is in the Need stage.

Stage 3 – Satiation (Transitional)

In the Satiation stage, she’s now getting all that she requires of something she feels she needs. This could mean that after months of pleading, you’ve finally agreed to allow her to refer to the two of you as boyfriend and girlfriend. She’s completely 100% satisfied, and is happily in a state of contentment and bliss – at least until she gets used to having this thing she wants and starts taking it for granted.

Stage 4 – Expectation

Once a girl is used to getting all that she needs of something for a certain amount of time, she moves to the Expectation stage. In this stage, she’s grown accustomed to having her needs fulfilled, and begins taking the thing she needed so badly before for granted. She expects to get something good – you might say she feels entitled to it – and if she doesn’t receive it, she feels anger and indignation. For instance, say you were in the habit of either calling or seeing a girl every other night, and she was used to this pattern of attention from you and was in the Expectation stage regarding it. Then, suddenly, you don’t call her or see her for a week. She’ll be hurt; she’ll wonder what’s going on; and she’ll be angry at you for disappearing and not giving her what she expected from you. That’s the Expectation stage.

Stage 5 – Burden (Transitional)

The Burden stage is when a woman is receiving too much of something. Say she’s seeing a guy who calls her daily. Maybe she chased after this; maybe she wanted him calling her every day. And when he first began doing so, she was glad; she went from Need to Satiation and finally to Expectation.

But then it began becoming a burden; she had to talk to him every night. She couldn’t take a night class, or had to make sure to squeeze the call in between work and school, or after class when she was already exhausted; she couldn’t go to happy hour and a late dinner with her friends because she had to take forty minutes out of her schedule to talk to her man. She thus begins feeling weighed down and constricted, and starts viewing the thing she previously desired very much as a burden.

Stage 6 – Rejection

The Rejection stage is what a girl moves onto from the Burden stage. After feeling constricted for too long, she’ll eventually start outright protesting against and rejecting the thing she’s feeling tied down by. She feels a certain disgust for it and wants nothing to do with it anymore, and works to get it out of her life.

Sarging is about selling yourself. That is why great salesmen and PUAs are interlinked. Remember that women are looking for a potential mating partner, so you have to demonstrate your positive qualities and believe in what you’re selling…that is YOU.

It’s no secret that the best salesmen in the world are the ones who believe in their product 100 percent.

This all boils down to their affirmation, or belief, in what they’re selling, and that’s why it’s important to believe in yourself. Doing so will make it easier to convey the positive
qualities you have to offer women.

Knowing how to sell yourself helps you display the high social status that women find irresistible.

But what is social status?

As I previously mentioned, in the animal kingdom, a man’s values are based on his status within a social context. The more valuable you present yourself, the more you’ll display a naturally-attractive exterior.

What’s interesting is that while a woman’s looks are generally most important to a man, and a man’s ’social value’ is generally the most attractive quality to women.

This goes beyond what you do for a living. Even if you have the crappiest job in the world, you can still be attractive to women if you know how to trigger her attraction switches.

By displaying a naturally-attractive personality when you first meet a woman, you’ll be able to transcend any minor drawbacks that you have going for you.

So how do you sell yourself?

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Stage 0 – Indifference

A girl in the Indifference stage is neutral to a kind of value. For instance, when you first meet a girl, she isn’t desperately hoping you’re going to call her every night right off the bat because it isn’t something that’s occurred to her to want just yet. She’s indifferent; her desire for you is nonexistent.

Stage 1 – Curiosity (Transitional)

In the Curiosity stage, a girl is interested in trying something, but hasn’t actually tried it yet. She will want something – sometimes pretty badly – but since this desire isn’t tied to anything experienced yet, it fades away fast and is easily superseded; e.g., she wants to kiss a guy really bad, but he keeps stringing her along and teasing her, until you come along, sweep her off her feet, and kiss her. Now her interest has turned from him to you, and her curiosity in kissing that first guy (dork!) is probably largely forgotten (much to his consternation).

Stage 2 – Need

In the Need stage, a girl has tasted something – whether she kissed you for the first time, or you her on an incredible date, or you gave her powerful orgasms in bed – and she wants more of it.
While she’s in the Need Stage of Desire, a girl will chase after the thing she wants, often pleading, complaining, cajoling, doing nice things, causing drama, and doing anything she can as she seeks to get the thing she wants and needs more of.
When a girl is chasing after and pursuing you, her desire for you is in the Need stage.

Stage 3 – Satiation (Transitional)

In the Satiation stage, she’s now getting all that she requires of something she feels she needs. This could mean that after months of pleading, you’ve finally agreed to allow her to refer to the two of you as boyfriend and girlfriend. She’s completely 100% satisfied, and is happily in a state of contentment and bliss – at least until she gets used to having this thing she wants and starts taking it for granted.

Stage 4 – Expectation

Once a girl is used to getting all that she needs of something for a certain amount of time, she moves to the Expectation stage. In this stage, she’s grown accustomed to having her needs fulfilled, and begins taking the thing she needed so badly before for granted. She expects to get something good – you might say she feels entitled to it – and if she doesn’t receive it, she feels anger and indignation. For instance, say you were in the habit of either calling or seeing a girl every other night, and she was used to this pattern of attention from you and was in the Expectation stage regarding it. Then, suddenly, you don’t call her or see her for a week. She’ll be hurt; she’ll wonder what’s going on; and she’ll be angry at you for disappearing and not giving her what she expected from you. That’s the Expectation stage.

Stage 5 – Burden (Transitional)

The Burden stage is when a woman is receiving too much of something. Say she’s seeing a guy who calls her daily. Maybe she chased after this; maybe she wanted him calling her every day. And when he first began doing so, she was glad; she went from Need to Satiation and finally to Expectation.

But then it began becoming a burden; she had to talk to him every night. She couldn’t take a night class, or had to make sure to squeeze the call in between work and school, or after class when she was already exhausted; she couldn’t go to happy hour and a late dinner with her friends because she had to take forty minutes out of her schedule to talk to her man. She thus begins feeling weighed down and constricted, and starts viewing the thing she previously desired very much as a burden.

Stage 6 – Rejection

The Rejection stage is what a girl moves onto from the Burden stage. After feeling constricted for too long, she’ll eventually start outright protesting against and rejecting the thing she’s feeling tied down by. She feels a certain disgust for it and wants nothing to do with it anymore, and works to get it out of her life.

How do you be the man that all women desire? Well, women want men to act like men, and part of displaying your masculinity is to display courage and confidence. With that said, you, being the man, have to be the one to take things to the next level.

This means that you be the one to take the initiative. Be the one to ask her out. Make the first move. And act like a man who is not afraid to take things to the next level.

Besides being the one responsible for progressing the relationship, a man also has to put effort into keeping it alive. One of the harsh realities of dating is that women get bored…
really quickly.

If you’re not providing a fun, exciting experience, then you run the risk of forcing her to find a guy who will!

A lot of times, women will settle when it comes time to pick a romantic partner. Usually, this comes from a fear of being alone or not finding a comfortable relationship.

The problem is, while they’re in a stable situation, most women secretly yearn for the guy who can provide them with a bit of excitement. Someone who acts like a “leader of men.”

Women want a guy who is not afraid to take action. This is a quality that stems from the way we evolved as human beings.

The “leaders of men” were often the most sexually desirable. When a woman would select a mating partner, she would inevitably gravitate towards the guys who were a cut above the rest… the leaders.

So what draws a woman to a leader of a group?

Most of the time, this type of guy wasn’t the smartest, best looking, or even the toughest, but the leader did have one quality…

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Guys, I want you to know that attracting hot girls can be easy if you understand the science behind attraction. This science is what alpha males use every right to get a huge advantage over other people. It separates them from those wimpy guys and makes women naturally want them. And know you need to know how to have the attitude that an alpha male has. Are you ready to be that alpha male that women can’t help but desire?

I also want you to know that I have been where you are at right now. It took me a long time to understand how this game worked. I want you to stop wasting your time and decide that it is time to make a change in your life so that you too can start attracting any woman you want!

So, what is this alpha male attitude and why does it work? You see, alpha males aren’t worried about rejection. They know that this whole thing is a numbers game and that not every girl they try to pick up is going to want them. So what do they do? They simply move on to the next hot woman. And this works to trigger attraction because women don’t want a puppy dog of a guy. They want a guy that represents a challenge and by not investing so much energy into any one woman, that is exactly what happens.

So now that you know this alpha male attitude, wouldn’t you like to have the same attitude so that you can attract hot girls anytime anywhere just like the buckmylife team?

Set yourself a challenge, speak to as many strangers as possible whenever you’re outside, it does not matter whether you are in a shopping centre or in a restaurant etc. I feel this is important activity to conduct at least once every few months so you become in the habit of interacting with people in general as well as with the opposite sex. I believe that the more one interacts with strangers from different cultures, backgrounds, social classes, genders etc you will become comfortable around someone that you wouldn’t normally socialise with, think of this challenge as practice for interacting to a hot babe (HB).
To make it easier, do not pressure yourself to approach as you do not want to develop an anxiety and you do not have to approach every single girl you see, just wait for when the opportunity arises or when you can manipulate an opportunity to approach, the girl does not have to be smoking hot we are only trying to build confidence so its the interaction that counts not her looks, weight or age and remember that you do not need to get the targets phone number every time.